Hi, I believe your problems are the following.
First for the export settings for qb, the “recommended” setting are wrong. You should use only the “origin at zero” and the “right hand”.
To export for dae, you first need to flip the object… Make it face the opposite way. (not just rotate 180, flip it)
You can also try this software: A new free alternative to Qubicle
It is the closest to qubicle you can get when exporting, and it can export to .obj! (though I didn’t tested it yet to know if needs any trick like the voxelshop flipping)