Multiplayer without steam on json file?

So I am trying to play with my friend without steam. I feel like I set up the json user setting file correctly but it still wont let us connect. It just gives us both the option to create a game and not join anything, if anyone knows how to set up the file, please help. maybe walk me through it? I feel like I missing something so obvious.

You should look Multiplayer without steam

@Devan_Tenney, without Steam, you don’t have to click any “Join” button.
The host should start the game and once he has placed the banner, the client should run Stonehearth and it should automatically be in the connect screen, listing any mods the host might have.