No need to apologize! Your post was in #uncategorized, so I wanted to clarify what you were looking for.
You’ll be happy to hear that the devs have acknowledged that the current situation isn’t ideal. Auto-ladders isn’t currently on the to-do list, but better notifications are. In a future alpha you should receive a notification when a Hearthling gets stuck (unknown if it will be alpha 20 or later), sort-of like you get a notification when you are under attack.