Just wanted to start a list (Hope I get some help) of things, I( along with others I’m sure) have noticed and might help some with their games.
Fake Footmen patrol way points - Minus the normal Stock piles and farms you can make mini stock piles around your settlement to get you Footmen to quasi patrol. personally I go with 3x3 stock piles in a ‘X’ pattern and set them to gold or any item currently not in use. This helps move the Footmen around some.(A7+). Party feature helps but still a bit limited in A8 so far.
So far I limit my population to 9 settlers and have a better time without the AI freaking as much.(A7+)
Turn off Vsync and have better performance when they are building. (A7+)
I give all my settlers a party command (Guard) sometimes I can use this to kinda reset a freaked out AI without reloading the game. (A8)
Limit my building sizes to no more than 20x20 Better performance and less AI issues same for mining.(A7+)
Use walls in place of fences (always had issues with fences).(A7+)
Just a few things that have help my game experience. Hope it helps some 
*This may/may not work for all but it can’t hurt to try if you reached that no return point.
So what are your In-Game work around? Curious if I can tweak my Experience more myself. Pls leave what Version it works for if you don’t mind thx
